Driving with your teenager is the best way to argue

4 May

Driving with your teenager and spouse is the best way to argue.  Even the best laid plans for driving practice can go askew when both parents are in the same vehicle.  We pride ourselves on being on the same page and showing a strong united front, however, training your child to drive is excruciatingly painful and tempers tend to flare up.

teen girl driving

Picture this; my Beloved has driven two miles to our local grocery store and pulled into the parking lot. We finish our shopping and we’re heading home.  Our Beloved proceeds to back out of the parking spot, that we weren’t “technically” in anyway, and turns the steering wheel the wrong direction.  So now, we’re cockeyed in the spot and Just Plane Dad’s vehicle is half in and half out of the parking space.  On top of that, since she turned the wheels the wrong direction, we are now facing oncoming drivers…or would be if we’d actually fully exited the confines of the painted lines.

We ask her to straighten out the wheel, pull back into the spot, re-adjust and try it again.  This doesn’t go exactly as imagined.  After the third juggle, we tell her which way to turn the wheels, confusing her with whether we mean the steering wheel or the car wheels and ultimately end up frustrating the child.  I’ve never heard some of the words that came out that night.  Total melt down ensues on her part our part and she hops out of the car.  Which by the way, is still parked in several spots and facing the wrong direction according to that giant 8 foot arrow, they’ve painted on the ground.

Just Plane Dad seizes the moment to take back control of the reins and hops in the front seat as Beloved starts screeching that it’s still her turn to drive.  We argue all the way home which thankfully is only a four minute drive.  Gotta love learning to drive!  Did our parents feel this same way?  Did we do any better our first time?

Good news, Just Plane Dad and I reach an agreement.  Unless we are leaving town with category 5 hurricane winds bearing down on us, we must never EVER ride together in the vehicle with Beloved.  No more group training sessions.  From now on, it’s one on one time.  We have found our Achilles Heel.  See it’s not our Beloveds fault, she’s learning, it’s ours for not handling this rite of passage well.

Hovering high and low, Helicopter Mom and Just Plane Dad

6 Responses to “Driving with your teenager is the best way to argue”

  1. Ali Gilbert May 9, 2016 at 4:40 PM #

    Hilarious! I will be in this situation in a few blinks 🙂 All part of growing up!

  2. Emmy May 9, 2016 at 2:49 PM #

    I think I am going to have to leave this part of parenting up to my husband- I can totally picture how crazy I might get now.

  3. Crystal May 9, 2016 at 1:39 PM #

    I just could not learn to drive with Dad. After one trial we both threw in the towel and it was all up to Mom. Perhaps that’s why she doesn’t enjoy driving now? I wonder what will happen with our children…

  4. L. E. Mastilock May 9, 2016 at 1:22 PM #

    Learning to drive is stressful for both child and parent! When I was in high school my mom taught my friend how to drive because she was patient when her own parents made her feel too nervous and pressured! It’s important for both to be able to keep calm.

  5. Corinne May 9, 2016 at 11:27 AM #

    I am laughing so hard at this story. We have lived through a similar experience and came to the same conclusion. Having 2 parents in the car teaching a teen to drive is just too many cooks in the kitchen!

  6. Anne Campbell May 8, 2016 at 11:30 AM #

    Driving is such a scary, exciting, overwhelming skill for teens to learn, and patience is definitely key. I have one driving and one learning right now. My oldest learned pretty easily and without a lot of drama. My current student is going to be a challenge. He recently asked us if street racing is legal–oh, my!

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