New Year isn’t just for resolutions; it’s for pondering the past

31 Dec

New Year’s has it hard. Who wants to go after Christmas in the holiday department?  While it’s true that the start of a new year won’t get the kid’s vote, for us as parents, it’s become a very important holiday.

I have always enjoyed that feeling of freshness that occurs with the start of things.  Births, weddings, first day of kindergarten and a new year are all reasons to celebrate.  Not only do these occasions give you license to forecast your dreams for the future, but they offer forgiveness for what’s already happened.  With the first day of the New Year, life as you knew it is over and your fresh slate awaits.

Happy New Year from Helicopter Mom and Just Plane Dad

Like most parents, I enjoy the long weekend away from work and spend it with my family.  Now that our daughter is older, she understands the significance behind the typical resolution.  One of my greatest joys is hearing what she wants for herself in the coming year.  Where before it was a new pet or shiny trinket, now her wishes have morphed into greater meaning, such as being kind to others and friendly neighbors.

As we go over our resolutions for the New Year, inevitably weight loss will creep up on my list.  Those final few pounds have haunted me for too long and I’d love to find out why…have any of you tried those 23andMe tests? It’s got to be genetics!  We giggle as I draw a stick figure of my current self and of the new improved mom that’s yet to emerge.

My husband tells me how beautiful I have always been and my child pragmatically asks, “Why didn’t you reach your goal?”  Great question; I casually brush it aside and mention that today is for thinking ahead, not worrying about the past, and she eyes me quizzically. “Why don’t they have an Old Year’s Day?”  Out of the mouth of babes.

Happy New Year from Helicopter Mom and Just Plane Dad

We all agree that to truly enjoy the blessings that are sure to come our way this year, we need to think about what happened with the time that’s ending. We decide to hold the first annual Old Year’s Day ritual.  The only rule…you can’t talk about the future until you have discussed the past twelve months and what you would do differently.  Sounds simple, it’s not; takes a great deal of introspection.

Did I tithe enough to my church?  Did I handle my anger appropriately?  Am I certain my daughter and husband know how very important they are to me?  Was I a good friend, daughter, sister?  Take a moment to think back over the last year and ponder whether you were infinitely happy with the results.  If not, you can recommit to those items that fell by the wayside.  If so, congratulations on your success.  As the last light of firework dims in the sky, you may rest easy knowing that the New Year brings new promise to you and yours.

What do you need to resolve from last year?  What have you planned for in the new year? 

Happy Old Year!  Happy New Year!

Hovering high and low, Helicopter Mom and Just Plane Dad

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