Mom Monday-What Does Christmas Look Like To You?

17 Dec

I’ve always loved the song “It’s Beginning to Look A Lot Like Christmas”.  I’m not sure if that’s the official name, but it’s what I’ve always called it; mainly because those are the only words I can ever seem to remember.  I’ve never let it hold me back though.  I belt that one line out at the top of my lungs all season long!

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This most wonderful time of the year evokes images of happy families sharing a feast of roast beast next to a roaring fireplace.  The fireplace is, of course, decorated by stockings hung with care.  Chestnuts are roasting on an open fire, while children wait for Santa Clause to come to town.

But is that really what Christmas looks like here in the real world?  Every family is unique and experiences the holidays in its own special way.  For example, I’m traditional and love to gather the family, and deck my halls with boughs of holly.  My best friend, on the other hand, is slightly less traditional.  She would rather skip the halls and deck her relatives instead.

Same holiday.  Two families.  Two different experiences!

There is an ideal out there that many of us are striving so hard to achieve each year.  When we fail to create that picture perfect portrait of Christmas, it is easy to come away feeling like a bit of a failure.  But what actually makes a Christmas celebration perfect?  What is Christmas supposed to look like anyway?

I was thinking about this one day while driving the kids over the river and through the woods to visit their grandmother.  It turned out that she wasn’t even home that day.  She was out getting run over – and not by a reindeer either!  She had decided to go shopping on Black Friday.  Here was the beginning of another holiday season that was not going to live up to my perfectionist expectations!

I was called in to guard the loot in the emergency room while she got her shoulder x-rayed.  Driving down the highway listening to Karen Carpenter sing “Silent Night” felt strange at the moment in light of what had just happened.  What a confusing dichotomy for one simple happy holiday – or is it Merry Christmas?

The more I thought, the more I began to see that perhaps the conflict does not lie in the holiday, but rather in our perception of it. We’re so busy falling short of Pinterest perfection, stressing over perfectly coordinated outfits for the family picture, and trying NOT to burn the cookies that it’s easy to miss all of the things that we’re actually doing right.

It was then and there that I realized that I needed to actively build my perspective on Christmas.  I began to paint a new picture of the perfect holiday season.  My decorations may not be perfect, my recipes may not be “trending”, and I might be having a really, really bad hair day, but if I’m with the people I love does all of that other stuff really matter?  The short answer is no!

I want to be the best mom that I can be.  Passing on a tradition of holiday stress to my children is not on my to-do list.  I’ve decided to roll with the punches this year.  I’ll strive for a different kind of perfection from now on.  This new perfection is found in embracing life as it comes and enjoying every moment of it with my kids.  I’m going to eat that figgy pudding, listen to some jingle bell rock, and have myself a merry little Christmas!

What does Christmas look like to you?


As founder of k10conceptions Publications, Kristen works tirelessly to produce high quality children’s literature.  As a child she experienced firsthand the wonder that is a parent reading to Kristen Iten Authortheir child.  Now as a mother herself, she has committed to providing unique stories that parents around the globe will use to build lasting family memories of their own.

Kristen started her writing career as a freelance writer.  Most of her time was spent writing informative nonfiction content.  “That was pretty unfulfilling on a creative level,” she remarked.  “There was the satisfaction of a job well done when I would finish a piece, but as a whole, the job became such drudgery that I began to question whether or not I even enjoyed writing.”

She soon realized that she was writing the wrong kind of material.  “When I switched over and began to write from the imagination things really began to pop!”  Kristen is now a successful author with several children’s books awaiting release.  She manages k10conceptions Publications and is working to build a vibrant community on Facebook that supports parents in their efforts to find creative and developmental playtime activities for their children.

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