Let’s define Helicopter Parents for those that don’t understand us

2 Mar

According to many, helicopter parents pay extremely close attention to their children’s experiences and problems, to the detriment of their children.

  • I say, shouldn’t we be involved with our children’s lives?
  • Isn’t it my job to guide her through life’s experiences?
  • Shouldn’t Dad know where his son is after school?
  • Why do some parents feel it’s okay to take a backseat in today’s troubled world?

Since even my hubby and I disagree on some parenting rules, it is difficult to find the right balance of parental guidance and downright pushing.  I stay close [very close], to all goings on and Just Plane Dad is happy to allow more freedoms.  After much trial and error, we have learned to strike the perfect balance for our family, or at least according to us.


Dad playing airplane with daughter as a helicopter parents


I’m demanding, pressuring, cajoling our Beloved to become the best person ever and Just Plane Dad simply shows the expectation by, well, doing it.  He doesn’t feel the need to get in there and micromanage the kid, confident that he’s leading by example.  I know my Beloved is watching me too but I also realize that words are powerful and I love to talk!  We both feel that since we decided to have this precious child, it’s our top priority to raise her, and since this appears to be our one and only big chance to get it right, we work hard at being good parents, even if that means we approach it differently than most and others.


I’ve been reading all of the fodder on helicopter parents that is circulating the web and it seems to me that we need to find common ground or more accurately, middle ground.  Not many things in life are done at “extreme” limits and parenting shouldn’t be either…that goes for over-parenting or free range raising.


While I definitely identify with the Helicopter Mom side, I do recognize the need to prepare our children for the real world like just like Free Range Moms do.  I just don’t think they need to be in any hurry to get out there.

Hovering high and low, Helicopter Mom and Just Plane Dad

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